Question.... What constitutes sex?

So I am watching the ghettofabulous Real Ho Wives of the ATL and Kandi is talking about getting back into the game after her fiance died. I think that it may be too soon, but that is just my opinion. He died in October of 2009 but they were already separated, so maybe she had moved on mentally well before then. Anyway, on the season premiere Kandi is dating a real nice looking NFL player and she tells him about the bet she has with a friend on remaining celibate until December 31, 2010. He seemed not to be able to handle that until he asked if oral sex was part of the deal. She said that she could still participate in oral sex and still be in compliance with the bet.

Ok, I thought that we had settled this back in 1998 with Monica and Bill. Oral sex is sex to me! If he can lick it right I can get off just as well as if he sticks it in. So anything with sex in it -- oral, vaginal, phone-- is sex to me. If my man gets a BJ from or gives head to another woman I would be just as pissed as if he had vaginal intercourse with her. That would be a deal breaker!

So what do you think? I am very interested to know...

Here is my old school jam for this post!! We don't have to take clothes off by Jermaine Stewart. Ironically, he died of AIDS in 1997.

OMG, really trying to keep the panties on!!!!

I am not ready to play with the big boys! T is really coming on strong and I am fading fast. I was with him the other night and he was all over me. At first he was flirtatious and then he became touchy. Our group was finalizing the set for our next gig , so it was a long, intense rehearsal. I was trying to get some studying in while the musicians were getting a part right, when he came over to where I was and began to massage my neck. FLOOD! (I know, I know-- but you have to remember that I am NOT having sex and I won't until I get married.)
Anyway, I maneuver away from him and we sit and talk. I had been planning for all of us to take a trip out of town and stay in a really posh hotel for the weekend after Thanksgiving. Since that Thursday is my Birfday (YAY!!) I thought that it would be a great treat for me too. He thought that it was a great idea and the rest of the band got in on our conversation and agreed. But we are not going since Nic's baby has a birthday himself that weekend. But mah boo is insisting that the two of us go! NOOOOOO!!! I will not be able to resist him at all if we are alone for two days in a hotel room. I can just see him dragging his dreds over my naked body.............. smh

Oh and he smelled sooooo good. He had just got his hair done and that Kente oil was killin me! lol He smelled like mmmm. Okay, let me stop. I have to stay holy. I am also trying to keep real feelings out of it.

BTW, I had dinner last night with P and his sister, after church. He is still fine. Grown man fine. And that is all I have to say about that (Forrest Gump voice)

So chirren, be prayin' for me as I try to keep my panties on in this time of temptation with this fiooone, dred-locked 28 year old. AMEN

I almost forgot my song for this post..... A little old school by my girls Salt and Peppa SHOOP!